Forgiveness – five components

A forgiveness journey comprises five stages: self-love through acceptance of personal emotions; an attitude of forgiving the transgressor; willingness to engage with the offender; being open to apologies; and communal restoration of the offender.

These phases, akin to nature’s Fibonacci sequence, reflect a progression towards healing and must be approached patiently, ensuring acts of restitution following wrongdoing.

Forgiveness intertwines personal reflection and societal justice, advocating a gradual process that fosters genuine reconciliation and communal harmony.

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Recovery after conflict

WHAT DO WE NEED TO RECOVER AFTER CONFLICT?   Many years ago the philosophers Gorovitz and MacIntyre wrote about human failings.[1] They suggested that in the realms where control is within our reach, we have two reasons why we might still fail. The first is ignorance due to a partial understanding of how something works. […]

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The story continues: part 3

After 18 months work drawing together the stories from the past 15 years, by April 2014 I had a manuscript of 90,000 words. Friends read it and said it was powerful material but heavy going. In the next six months a skilful editor cut almost 30,000 words and created a wonderful flow of one story […]

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Book review: Frida

Frida: chosen to die, destined to live. By Frida Gashumba, with Sandy Waldron. Sovereign World, 2007, 169pp. After years of fearful living and daily discrimination, because they are Tutsi, Frida, at age 14, is thrown unconscious with all other members of her family into a shallow grave near their home in rural Rwanda. But Frida, […]

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The story continues: part 2

In 2012 I visited some of the Rwandans Dave had filmed. They gathered close as I opened my laptop and played some of the stories he had created from the footage and I explained how we were using it. I showed them parts of Vanishing Point, the secondary school curriculum. Their response was gasps of amazement, smiling […]

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The story begins: part 1

In 2007 David Fullerton accompanied me on a visit to Rwanda to film the stories of people in recovery. Over two weeks, with support from donors and some logistics from World Vision, and the guidance of three young interpreters, we filmed 28 amazing hours of story, culture and background material. When Dave shared the footage […]

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New beginnings

A new website is conceived.  A country is re-born.  A book comes to birth. New beginnings almost always require forgiveness – to forgive means letting go of something that has inhibited or hindered me. So forgiveness gives us the chance of living in a new way or adding new dimensions to life.

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